When Justice is Not Served

Justice.  The definition is ‘just behavior or treatment’. Just meaning what is based on or behaving accordingly to what is morally right and fair. My definition of the word justice would be ‘a wrong that happened to you was made right’.  My struggle has been real lately with wanting justice on a few things in life.  Let me explain.  There have been different times in my life where someone possibly hurt me, mistreated me, or took credit for something I did.  And while each situation is different, I realized something.  Some of the things that I thought I had moved on from, proved I wasn’t completely over them quite yet.  Because the truth of the matter is, if I was really over Betty Jo who did me wrong a few months ago, it would not still bother me that she never apologized or acknowledged what she did or said.

Expectations.  There is that word again.  The problem that I have had lately is putting my own expectations on justice.  I have expected different people to do the right thing and fix any wrong doings.  Treat me the way I would treat them.  News flash, that ain’t gonna happen.  I cannot place my expectations of how a situation should be handled according to the way I think is right.  Because if you remember from my previous post on expectations (link here), expectations set you up for disappointment.  They take away your joy and distract you.  It makes it hard to appreciate all the good things in life because you are so focused on the one thing that is not happening according to what you thought.

My sister said something the other day that made this justice fiasco come full circle.  She later brought me to ask myself “Do I really trust God?”  Let me walk you through my answer the way I thought it out in my head:

Do I trust God? Duh, of course. God is good, His love is great, and I trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding (Proverbs 3:5).  But hold on…do I really trust God?  Trust him enough with my life and every decision in it?  When I say I am not going to do something because I will let God handle it, am I really doing that?  Because you see, if I really trusted God, I wouldn’t be worried about justice at all.  I would trust that God will work everything out, but more so realize that God is just.  We serve a just God.  There are so many verses in the bible about God being just but I will reference Psalm 25:8 (the message), “God is fair and just; He corrects the misdirected, sends them in the right direction.”  I realized that these “justice” situations are a matter of forgiving and then really forgetting.  Trusting that God will right any wrongs.

28 and Feeling Great!

Happy Birthday to Me!  I turned 28 years young this week. 28 and feeling great as I like to tell everyone! Another year has flown by right before my eyes, and the word that has been on my mind lately is blessed.  More than anything I just feel so blessed right now.  Blessed to have lived 28 years on this earth.  Blessed for my health, my family and friends, and just this exact season that I am in right now in my life.  All glory and praise to you Lord.  Now while 28 years may not seem like a lot of time to some people, it is all I have ever known.  27 was an eventful roller coaster of a year.  I cried, I laughed, and continued learning some much needed lessons in life.  So, what better way to spend my birthday then sharing with you a few things that I learned when I was 27.

  1. Pray for those who persecute you. One of my favorite posts I have written on this blog is titled, “Hurting People Hurt People”. If you haven’t read it yet, I highly encourage you to do so (link to post).  This post describes in detail a time last year when I had to learn one of the hardest lessons in life: to love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.  That was one of the hardest but most rewarding things I have had to learn.  That situation pushed me to grow and mature more than I ever thought possible.   It taught me to trust God, love fearlessly, and made me a stronger person with thicker skin.  Not today Satan. Not now, Not ever.
  2. God is not in a hurry. I am. No matter what season of life we may be in, I feel like we as humans sometimes are eager to get to the next. I was guilty of this this past year even though one of my favorite sayings is, “there’s a reason for your season.”  I always have been a believer in that expression.  However, I had to remind myself on a few occasions this past year to stop looking to the future and embrace the season I was in.  Although sometimes I would look at my calendar and think to myself, “Okay, it’s time for this next life event,” I realized I needed to let things happen naturally.  AKA I needed to sit back, take the passenger seat, and let God take the wheel.
  3. Let Go and Let God. Any fellow control freaks out there? Where my planners at?  I don’t think I realized just how much of a control freak I can be until I began dating someone who was the complete opposite.  Now, while I may be in denial and think that I’m not as bad with planning my life as some people are, I realized that I do possess this trait.  Something I say all the time is, “Fail to Plan, Plan to Fail.”  While this is true to a certain extent this phrase only applies to a limited number of things in life.  Because the reality is that God is in Control.  Now don’t confuse what I’m saying here.  Obviously, if you are trying to lose weight and don’t meal plan, have an exercise plan, or do the work, you’re not going to achieve your goal.  What I’m saying is that at the end of the day, I learned I need to release my worries and problems, and let God handle it.  I realized that I don’t have control over a lot of things in life, rightfully so. But let me tell you, life is so much easier when you let God handle everything.
  4. It’s okay not to be okay. Life is hard. Really hard.  The struggles we face, the pain we feel, it’s no wonder God didn’t intend for us to spend eternity here on earth.  We go through different seasons, we change, and we live in a world where the pressures, comparison, and evil things in this world are constantly present.  It’s okay to go through times in life where you may by struggling whether it’s in a relationship, with your children, or your career.  What you must be careful of is how you spend your time during that struggle.  Looking at Social Media multiple times in a day and seeing other people’s highlight reels isn’t going to make you feel better about all the stuff going on in your life that we would never share on social media.  That’s just a recipe for comparison waiting to happen.  You need to take the steps that are best for you whether it’s spiritually, mentally, or physically. Whether it’s seeking a counselor, therapy, or joining a support group, do the things that will only help lift you out from the thing pulling you down. Leaning into God and having a good community of family and friends can help make the not okay times okay.
  5. Make the most of your life. Life is short.  We really don’t know how much time we have on this earth.  With that being said, I realized the need to make the most of the time I have on this earth with those I love.  Why not take that trip, go to that concert, or take that first step to your dream goal?  Instead of giving physical gifts for birthdays and holidays, why not plan experiences that’ll create memories and adventures that you can have forever.  Now that is priceless.  (Hallmark, holler at ya girl. 😉 )

Check Yo self, before you wreck Yo self.

A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I went to a cute little cafe for lunch.  It was a chilly fall Saturday, and I was in the mood for soup and a sandwich.  We get to the restaurant and see that it’s busy, as it typically is.  I knew what I wanted and was getting excited for the comfort food that would soon be entering my belly.  We get to the front and I tell the cashier my order.  “I’m sorry ma’am we’re out of that for the day,” the cashier replies to my order, crushing my hopes and dreams (disclaimer: if this post sounds a little dramatic and ridiculous, it’s because it is).  Annoyed, I tell my boyfriend to place his order, while I scramble to look at the menu and quickly pick another option.  After we order, we go to sit down and wait for our food to come out.  After a few minutes, my boyfriend’s food is delivered to the table.  I start to get excited, assuming mine must be coming close behind.  I continue to wait and watch other people’s food as it gets delivered to their table.  I start to realize my boyfriend’s food is going to be cold by the time mine gets delivered.  I try to persuade him to begin to eat so he could enjoy his food while it was hot.  I’m unsuccessful and we continue to sit there waiting on my food.  I slowly start to become more and more annoyed.  Next, I look up and see something that maybe you can relate to.

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